Surviving Sleep Regression
Hey, it's probably 3 AM, your baby isn’t sleeping, and you’ve stumbled upon this article in a desperate search for answers. We've all been there, and we're here to help.
As a doula, one of the most common concerns we hear from new parents are about sleep regression. It can be a bewildering and exhausting time — but understanding what sleep regression is, why it happens, and how to manage it can make a significant difference.
What is Sleep Regression?
Sleep regression is a period that typically lasts between 2 to 6 weeks, during which, a baby who has been sleeping well suddenly begins waking up frequently during the night and has trouble settling down for naps.
It’s like your baby suddenly decided to join an all-night rave without telling you. You feel like you’ve finally gotten into a great routine but suddenly you’ve gone from sleep schedules to party schedules, and unfortunately, you’re the one hosting.
Why Does Sleep Regression Happen?
Sleep regression is often linked to various developmental milestones. As babies grow, their brains and bodies are constantly evolving, and these changes can temporarily disrupt their sleep patterns. Here are some common reasons why sleep regression occurs:
Developmental Milestones:
As babies learn new skills like rolling over, crawling, or standing, their excitement and practice of these new abilities can interfere with sleep. It’s like their brain is saying, “Why sleep when you can practice your new somersaults at 3 AM?”
Cognitive Leaps:
Major cognitive developments like increased awareness of their surroundings and new social skills, can also disrupt sleep as babies process these changes. They’re basically having an existential crisis, pondering the meaning of peek-a-boo at 2 AM. Well not really, but you get it.
Growth Spurts:
Rapid growth spurts can increase hunger, causing babies to wake up more frequently to feed. It’s like they’re training for a food-eating competition and need the extra -practice.
Teething:
The discomfort from teething can make it harder for babies to stay asleep. Imagine trying to sleep while sprouting teeth — sounds fun, right?
When Does Sleep Regression Happen?
While every baby is unique, sleep regressions tend to occur around predictable ages:
4 Months: Often considered the most challenging, as it marks a significant shift in sleep cycles and the eruption of baby teeth! Welcome to the four-month sleep regression, where your baby decides sleep is for the weak.
8-10 Months: This period aligns with major physical milestones like crawling and standing. Your baby just discovered mobility and wants to practice escaping the crib at all hours.
12 Months: A time of even more mobility and exploration. Your baby may now be waving, mimicking sounds, maybe even walking!
18 Months: Often associated with increased independence and possibly the transition to one nap.
2 Years: Linked to significant cognitive and language development. They’re probably up late rehearsing their first TED Talk.
How Can Doulas Help During Sleep Regression?
Navigating sleep regression can be tough, but as doulas, we provide invaluable support to help families manage this phase:
Emotional Support:
Doulas offer valuable emotional support during a baby's sleep regression by actively listening and providing reassurance that this phase is normal and temporary. They encourage and uplift parents, helping to boost their confidence and reduce anxiety. Doulas also teach stress-reduction techniques, offer practical coping strategies, and connect parents with support networks, ensuring they feel supported and less isolated during this challenging time.
Hands-on Support:
Doulas provide essential hands-on support during sleep regression by offering overnight care, providing parents with opportunities for much needed rest. This allows parents to rejuvenate and maintain their well-being. By tending to the baby's needs during the night, doulas alleviate parental stress and exhaustion. This comprehensive support enhances the family's ability to navigate the challenges of the sleep regression phase.
*Our doulas also offer short daytime visits for parents who quickly need to recharge.
Doula Support at Any Stage
One thing many parents don't realize is that doula support doesn't have to start pre-birth or even immediately postpartum. Doula support can begin at any time, including well into your baby’s first year. Whether you're facing the chaos of a 4-month sleep regression or the drama of an 18-month one, we’re here to step in and help you navigate these challenging phases. This can look like a day shift to help you get a nap in and some laundry done, or an overnight shift for a full reset.
Final Thoughts
Sleep regression is a challenging but normal part of your baby’s development. As doulas, we are here to support you through these phases with understanding, patience, and practical advice. Remember, this too shall pass —, and with the right strategies, you and your baby can navigate this period smoothly.
If you’re experiencing sleep regression with your little one and need support, feel free to reach out. Our team is flexible and can book you in on an as-needed basis. We’re here to help you every step of the way.
Sweet dreams (eventually),
Samantha
Labour + Postpartum Doula
